just an update, port 8054 and 50000 now open, resolved that issue, however still persisting error..i have everything turned off, firewall bit defender, the isp has a firewall, that is turned off, nothing is blocked, my ip is now static from the isp, everything I can tyhink of is turned off in the pc in relation to potentially stopping my connection, from what funky has said it appears to be at the point of connecting once the game has been launched, it simply stops trying to connect to the host or It simply stops trying to connect when I'm host..
funky can explain the error it brings up as he has the logs, but I am trying to resolve this without the need for a hammer